Odd thoughts as I start the day with a cig and wait upon my coffee...
I had a dream and in it I saw a lone person. The person was standing all alone in the darkness. It seemed from the feelings that the person who was standing there was an outcast or a banished one. They once had a place but now they did not. They once belonged but that had changed. But the person wasn't just me, no the image would shift on closer inspection, then it became a 2nd we were considering. But I was curious why it was me. It all boiled down to certain prejudices that the once very accepting set of associates seemed to all share.
This got me thinking about how accepting we are of others. How accepting are we of people who otherwise fit in with our associations quite well but have one serious flaw that we take as unacceptable (and this due to no fault of their one)? What are we afraid of?
I have to say that although I have learned quite a bit about acceptance of others and lack thereof, I have noticed a strange occurance that I have trouble explaining. To wit, that some of those who suffer from lack of acceptance are nonetheless just as likely to find themselves being the perpetrator of the same. So, it got me remembering a quote I heard once "We learn what we live." There was also a little tidbit about the things a child learns from the rearing.
Children Learn What They Live (1959)
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn . . .
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight . . .
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive . . .
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself . . .
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy . . .
If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel guilt . . .
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient . . .
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident . . .
If a child lives with gratitude, he learns to be appreciative . . .
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love . . .
If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is . . .
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice . . .
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him . . .
If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live . . .
WITH WHAT IS YOUR CHILD LIVING?
Dorothy L. Law
I might have to add to that wisdom that persons who never feel acceptance, they learn to shun others.
This bothers me at this particular time because I have noticed that my body is growing older and less attractive to the young as well as the perception that my mind is not as quick and sharp. I passed by first half-century without noticing any difference in the inner fires or sense of awareness. However, I have suffered from the lack of acceptance Iam talking about. Most noticably in my job search this becomes obvious. People use my age as a discriminating factor when it ought not to be. Also, in my choosing of companions this comes to the fore alot. Most of the available healthy women in the world seem to be younger by almost half. I've had my photo mistakenly put on my profile at dating sites. Well, it;s not unusual to not get many hits due to my dominance proclivities. But, I've had people (who I didn't find attractive at all) rate my looks at 1 star (on a scale of 1 to 5). There have been quite a few mutual burns (as the call 'em). I couldn't care less how they rate my looks really. More of what it comes down to is that my profile doesn't even appear on the radar of the very people I believe would suit my needs and desires most. They set their search filters to stop the search at 39 or 40. *laughs* I'm way past that. The oddest thing is, because I cannot find a companion with any health and vitality to companion with, I am not doing so many of the activities I love so much. A side-consequence is I am getting out of shape too. If this keeps up, I will eventually feel as old as people think I am. How fair is that?
Anyways... enough of my ramblings.